I’ve done it now for a couple of years. I’ve picked a one-word resolution for the new year. I got the idea from a post I saw on Facebook, and it really resonated with me. A one-word resolution goes something like this; instead of making a list of changes that you want to make in the coming year, ask yourself what kind of person you want to become. Once you have a picture of that person, make of list of their characteristics using single words. Look over your list and pick the word that jumps out at you. That’s yours for the next year! Don’t forget you need to pick only one, or it defeats the purpose.
In 2015, I picked authentic for my word. It felt perfectly suited to me that year. To me, it meant that I would strive to be authentically me in all areas of my life. Authenticity around how I chose to spend my time, about setting boundaries with people, and perhaps being a bit less stoic, and letting people in more. It worked out so well, that I decided to keep the word as 2016 rolled around.
This year, I’ve been thinking a lot about fear and anxiety, and how it can cripple me to the point that I never attempt anything fun or cool. I hold back either because I’m afraid I’ll fail, or afraid I’ll get rejected. I think most of us fail at more things than we succeed at them. That is IF we make the attempts.
So in 2017 I intend to make many attempts. Attempts at things that are hard, and at things that are scary. When I do, I’ll no doubt suck at stuff. I’ll fuck up, get shut down, rejected and passed over. But I’m going to do it anyway. At least I can say I went for it, and the odds are, the more I attempt, the better my chances are for success.
“I hope that in this year to come, you make mistakes, because if you are making mistakes, then you are making new things, trying new things, learning, living, pushing yourself, changing yourself, changing your world. You’re doing things you’ve never done before, and more importantly, you’re Doing Something.
So that’s my wish for you, and all of us, and my wish for myself. Make New Mistakes. Make glorious, amazing mistakes. Make mistakes nobody’s ever made before. Don’t freeze, don’t stop, don’t worry that it isn’t good enough, or it isn’t perfect, whatever it is: art, or love, or work or family or life.
Whatever it is you’re scared of doing, Do it.” -Neil Gaiman
So, for 2017 my mantra is “do it anyway!” and my one word intention will be “anyway” to remind me. What’s your word?